Jun 10, 2011

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Every relationship goes through stages. Where and how each stage develops is ultimately up to each person. While we always hope for the best, we often can't avoid the inevitable.

The most unfortunate fact about a relationship that doesn't work out, is the inevitable path both parties are on to become strangers. Many relationships follow a general path, through a set of different stages, one that brings two strangers together, takes them through a period of deep emotions and meaningful experiences, then returns them to where they began :'(

Stage 1: Meeting
This is the beginning, of what they believe is a beautiful relationship.
"It's so pathetic how guys would do, just about anything for the right girl"

Stage 2: The Chase
This is the stage where you try your best to get to know the other person, doing almost everything with one another. This is where two people become so blinded by their love for each other, that all they see is how great the other person is, and how lucky they are to have found this person. When everything turns out right, eventually, you'll reach the next stage.

"All I wanted to do was hang out with her... The only person I wanted to talk to, was her... She was the number one priority. She was everything that I thought could be perfect in a girl."

Stage 3: The Honeymoon
This is the stage where the two are officially a couple. This is the time where they could do everything to show their love for each other. This is the time where you would really get to know the person you love, knowing every detail of his/her day-to-day life and finally understanding who he/she is. However, all this would eventually simmer down, back to "normalcy". Which takes us to stage 4.

"It was the time when we could finally, fully express our affection to each other and do everything we wanted to do as a couple. It was a dream come true, the girl I wanted so, so badly was finally mine."

Stage 4: Comfortable
This is the most important part of the relationship because this is where each person can truly be themselves around one another. I consider this is the 'turning point' in a relationship, and it can either go two ways. The relationship could continue to grow, and they could live happily ever after, or it goes downhill, as you begin to take each other for granted.If this happens, it takes us to the next stage.

"Being comfortable isn't necessarily bad, its when we can truly be ourselves. But it depends on what you do with that comfort. Some use it positively, continuing to work at their relationship, and grow together. But others allow it to create distance."

"The bottom line is, someone stops trying and feelings aren't as strong as before"

Stage 5: Tolerance
This is the stage where it's gonna be very difficult to turn around, if not impossible. This is when the two people would constantly fight as a couple almost every single day, usually about the little, petty things. However, all these small fights would continue on, and the distance between you grows with it. This is when you just can't stand the other person anymore, and the two of you break further apart. The next stage is close to inevitable from here on.

"Arguing is one thing, but feeling unhappy and dissatisfied with the relationship is another. We tried various times, to try and make changes, to fix things, but like so many couples out there, it wasn't enough. We became one of those relationships where it wasn't bad, but it wasn't great. And let me tell you, that's never a good way to describe a relationship.

Stage 6: Downhill
In this stage, problems just continue and arguments never get solved. But the two of you wouldn't even remember what it is you were fighting about. This is a very short stage because the transition from stage 6 to 7 happens very quickly. This is when, the relationship just seems so bad, that you couldn't see anything good out of relationship anymore. You're only choice is to break up.

"There's not much time left once you're here. The effort to try to make things work, just isn't worth it anymore. Problems continue.. arguments don't get solved...
I dont really remember what we argue about... Sigh.... What did we argue about?" -

Stage 7: Breaking up
The end of the line. This is when the two of you believe that it's for the best if you break up. You talk about it, and you both mutually agree that you shouldn't be together anymore. Sometimes, the two of you can still be friends, but it's not usually this way, because most of the time, the two of you would become strangers, again. Eventually, moving on is the only way and things between you two will never be the same.

nota kaki : All of these are the stages of a relationship going downhill.. In the long run, there are only two alternatives, it's either you get married or you break up. That is why being in a relationship, being with someone you truly cherish, is quite dangerous. Because the risk of losing the other person is HUGE... Some say that the best things in the world are those in which you are willing to risk a whole lot, in order to obtain. The question now is...

Are you willing to risk it?

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